this house living malarky

well, truth be told our year of being back in a house has been a tricky one. i know we had no end of problems under canvas but i have to say i’d rather be there than here. yes i missed baths and easy cooking, yes we had neighbour issues but i still prefer that to this. i slept better, physically i was better, the children were more chilled out. i miss the simplicity, i miss the outdoors, i miss dim lighting and a lack of electricity, i miss the closeness of the whole family. here there are too many rooms to escape to, to many walls to put between us, we end up shouting out at each other and still not hearing, we end up sitting apart, even at night when we were up and the girls were asleep there was a proximity, now they’re a doorway, a set of stairs, another doorway and the other side of the room away, we go to bed and i can’t sense them sleeping nearby. we’ve just spent 4 nights at Tribal Earth and i loved it. i slept better, i was more awake and able to function in the mornings, when i woke in the night i could look over and see the girls. cooking was a bit rudimentary, but simple enough, i missed our compost loo but the loos were adequate and now we’ve discovered the beauty of the bucket shower my  bathroom requirements are easily satisfied (also at tribal earth they had a water trough with a fire beneath – something we talked about last year but were too busy to actually get round to). I don’t actually want to be in a tent again but a yurt or a hut of some kind would do the trick. i’m not sure how long i can live in a house, it’s stifling, it’s just so unnatural! would like to work out some kind of freezer/decent fridge solution though as keeping food cool & bulk(ish) buying becomes a bit of an issue with no cold storage.

anyway, there’s my latest rambling, and rambling it is.


A thank you to my husband

Thank you for the work you’ve done towards our experiment, thank you for being a wonderful husband, a fantastic father and a sexy lover. Thank you for always standing by me. Thank you for loving me despite how much you feel you have to nag me.

Thank you for not beating me with a big stick when I can’t sleep at night, for not leaving me when I’ve been at my whiniest and most annoying, for not reporting me to social services when it’s got to 2pm and our kids still aren’t fed and dressed, for when the temptation has been to drive me to a secluded spot & leave me there but you didn’t. For all those things and for so much more. Thank you.

festivals! yay

It’s been such a long time since I last blogged and I’d pretty much decided it was time to give it up but then I thought ‘things are a changing round here’ and so my blog could get interesting…. (please remember I only said ‘could’)

to start with we’ve been to two absolutely amazing festivals, both in May one for each bank holiday. the first was to wildheart at the beginning of May. Tis a pretty small festival with a very big heart. Lots of ceremonies, lots of workshops and lots for the little ones to do too – my only complaint would have to be the weather…. did it really need to rain quite that much on the Sunday? No? I didn’t think so either but clearly it was meant to be. The festival offered bushcraft, georgian singing, pizza making, chalk carving, a beautiful nest in the woods and a lake for swimming in (if you were feeling brave!) oh and of course compost toilets. we had a fntastic time, met two absolutely wonderful fmilies with whom we have since met up and are really looking forward to our next wildheart!

the second festival took place at the end of May and was wonderful in a very different way, as the name implies it is a small world where everyone lives together with mututal respect. the kids area was brilliant with loads for our little girlies to do, Boo went off one morning at 8.30 am after helping herself to heaps of fruit for breakfast (i did know she was off, she told/asked me) and I didn’t see her again until she returned at 12.30 with a pizza she’d made at the pizza workshop – how many places can you do that? the music was amazing, my favourite being The Undercover Hippy, the littlies slept through their performnce however – in the wheelbarrow wrapped in blankets. Twas a truly amazing festival and we will be returning next year. Even Noise had a fantastic time, she loved the music, the vitality, the vibe. We shared space with 3 faeries and a pirate, loved it, all of it. Compost toilets again, with the addition of a mens urinal and a shewee (communal 😉 ) The children were free, everyones not just mine and I came back feeling wonderful, truly energised and ready for my future.

I want more – festivals that is, both of the above festivals have a second showing coming up, small world in august and wildheart in Septemeber, on our wedding anniversary no less – so if anyone has a spare £150 laying round we’d love to spend our anniversary at Wildheart! Then there’s Buddhafield, Sunrise, and lots of lovely retreats oh how wonderful it would be to be able to attend them all!

And on the festival note mmmm bell tents, I want one – in fact we all want one. Would it be wrong to spend our wedding present ‘sofa fund’ on one?

yay, we’re married

the weather was lovely

all elements were in place (mostly – i forgot to pick the sweetpeas…)

our guests were wonderful – some even braved the compost toilets (after being given instructions by Boo)

more to follow at another time

i just wanted to say that now i’m mrs tom – although i’ll be keeping my name

oh and we had the most delicious wedding cake – pic to follow at a later date, like when i have some that aren’t just on facebook!

the sewing was worth it, as you’ll see when i get round to pics, and the memories of the day will be with most of us for ever (we think Yogi might not remember very much, maybe she’s just a little too small for that – which makes me a touch sad as it happens)

i am so the crappest blogger in the world….

hello, i almost feel i need to re-introduce myself it’s been such a long time since i blogged.

i won’t though, that’d just be daft, you can just look at ‘about’ and then you’ll remember… or look through my previous posts!

wedding plans are spinning along nicely, all feels a bit like lots at the moment (erm i’m not sure what’s happened to my language skills but heyho)

we’ve just got back from 2 weeks in spain with my parents and other dearly loved members of my family and this time for the first time ever we had a guest! my soon to be mother-in-law came over for a few days. no one has ever visited out there before, it was really nice for me to share some of my life with someone who wasn’t actually my significant other and none of my other in-laws have ever thought enough of my family to visit so thank you so much mother-in-law to be.

i’m not sure what to write about first! so much has been going on since i last blogged once again i don’t know where to start.

i guess wedding update so i have it in writing somewhere so i can look through it again oneday (if i ever feel the need to torture myself that is)

girls dresses/costumes are all in handor completed.

noise is wearing the dress she wore to the masked ball, including underwear and shoes so she’s sorted.

eddie is having her dress made, lovely dress maker in nearby burgess hill is making it, it was originally going to be one colour and then this changed to be another – my main objective on the bridesmaid front is that they are completely comfortable so they’ve all chosen their own dresses, including colours (well except yogi who’s wearing what she’s wearing because one of the others has chosen for her!) – she’s having her fitting for this next wednesday so fingers crossed she’ll like it! 

boo has 2 outfits, one a ladybird costume which i designed and made myself (although of course i do realise that  mother nature actually did the original design) the second one she wanted and which i plagiarised from another blog with permission from the original author and which i will link to once we reach a point where it won’t spoil the surprise for those that might actually attend who read this blog, she’ll be wearing the same colour for this as noise, her request – ladybird is complete, second outfit just needs finishing touches but could do as it is

yogi also has 2 outfits, one a bumble bee costume, again designed by mother nature, borrowed by me and then the second the same as boo but in the same colour as eddie (at boo’s request) the choice of bumble bee was picked by both boo & eddie (eddie mostly though, boo just approves wholeheartedly!)  – bumble bee front and back just need attaching to each other then yogi’s completely sorted

 pictures will follow for the costumes when i’m not in the middle of dinner and trying to snatch a few minutes to blog….

my dress is at the dressmakers as we speak being altered slightly to suit me more (like being taken up as i’m such a shortarse and having adjustments made to allow me to wear a bra…)  it was a freebie. i went to a charity clothes swap in aid of cancer research UK and there it was, asking to be tried on even though i wanted a nice ordinary dress in a sensible design that i could wear again… french connection uk for the princely sum of £5 entry fee and 5 items of clothing to swap (i also came away with a pair of jeans, some pj’s for eddie, 2 pairs of trousers and 2 t-shirts!  i just need underwear!

tom has a shirt, that’s as far as he’s got. and in fact the shirt needs altering, by me. my mum has clearly taken to tom like she’s not taken to any of my other husbands in the past…. she has given him my grandfathers cufflinks as a wedding present, her father died a very long time ago, long long before i was born so she clearly thinks he’s a keeper! unfortunately the shirt’s not designed for cufflinks so i’ll be altering that. i also think it needs a rounded rather than straight hem as i know (i so totally do) that tom won’t tuck his shirt in.


that has got to be it for this update otherwise i’ll get bored too and if i’m bored you must be thoroughly… also if i don’t go now dinner will burn and the girls will all be rather annoyed at me